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Chapter Seven - Relationships: They're important too

Life is relationships.

The people you work with, your business partners and more obviously your romantic partners. You and I have a relationship as well.

The purpose of all relationships is that we’re there to give. We learn to be self-less, we learn to love in such a way that the other person feels free.

That other person teaches us to give, to have self-respect and they push us to be the best possible version we can be.

You want to be the CEO of a 500 Fortune company? Your partner better be pushing you and cheering you on to success. It should work both ways, both taking on each challenge, defeating it and moving on to the next big thing.

Even if there’s failure, together you both learn from it, grow from it, and use that experience to improve and fine-tune your approach.

I was having a discussion with a friend not long ago, where we were discussing the various new sex products offered in the market.

Dolls, toys, and all sorts of different gadgets.

“Man I rather not even date,” He told me sincerely, “I’d rather just buy a doll and be a happy man that way. No problems, no drama just bliss. I can do whatever I want when I want to.”

“Well you could totally do that, but dolls won’t give you what real people do.”, I replied.

“What do you mean?”

“Well for starters relationships are not just for procreating. It is a result from a healthy relationship, it SHOULD be at least, but people often focus on just procreating, just as you are now.”

I continued, “You build on your masculine as you’re tested, pushed and put forefront to own your core essence. In this same manner, you help her be in her feminine and fully own her core essence so she too can lead a peaceful and stable life as she uses her character to her advantage.”

And it’s very true.

Relationships are not just for making a family. What good is making a family if you don’t have the appropriate tools to keep it healthy?

You could totally have a fulfilling relationship with the world. That amazing lady that works the coffee shop or the clerk at the library.

Maybe you’re in a club setting and a woman takes notice of you.

By seeking relationships, you’re seeking growth and fun. You’re looking to help someone be the best version they can and likewise.

Personally, I’ve set up my life in such a way that everyone I interact with has something to add to my life, and vice versa. I’ve slowly but surely objectively dropped anyone who took more and gave less. People who built walls rather than knock them down to be with me.

Those people don’t matter. They weren’t there when I cried my guts out. They weren’t there when I busted my back to progress.

Relationships are VERY important.

You’re the average of the top 5 people you surround yourself with consistently. If you hang out with stoners, chances are you’ll come to terms with smoking weed.

If you hang out with successful people, people that are constantly oriented towards growth, chances are you’ll adopt a similar mentality.

In this similar way, the woman you attract will further build on you or break you. The man you attract will either build you into a sophisticated lady or break you.

It has nothing to do about money ladies and gentlemen. It has nothing to do with gifts or bribes. I personally know many guys out there that use gifts as a bribe for sex.

I had a friend that gave his $2,000 car to a woman he was simply talking to.

Another friend showered a woman he was talking to with jewelry, money and food.

If the basis, the fundamental of your relationship is based on money and putting a dollar value on your manhood, what does that say about you?

What you feel that you lack in your life, you make up for in money and bribes for sex.

You’re essentially saying, “Hey look I don’t feel very confident that I have something to offer you, so I’ll make up for it with money.”

Don’t get me wrong either, gifts and details are perfectly fine DURING a relationship. Anything before this and women INSTANTLY disrespect you because it happens to them ALL the time.

I’ve tested and proven this to be true: I can teach you how to attract the lady of your dreams in a growth and fun oriented way. You don’t have to spend more than your personal current budget allows. You don’t have to say a certain pick up line.

That’s right. I am going to take a different approach than MOST relationship and dating pickup sites.

Guess what? It’ll be free too.

You will have to embody strength. You will have to embody maturity and a sense of fairness. You will have to embody fun, you will have to embody sincerity.

You will also have to embody discipline, no matter how hard temptation is. You will have to embody self-respect, always willing to walk away if your values are stepped on.

FORGET about JUST being respectful, anyone can do that.

In my current relationship, believe it or not but I’ve simply embodied the above and my lady is completely in love with me. She talks about me and defends me in front of her aunts, uncles, parents, cousins, and anyone who so much asks her out to a date when I’m not around.

She is willing to always talk things out because she knows we’re in this together. She approaches the relationship in a mature and open minded way, always doing anything and everything but having a complete blast doing it.

You may say “Well come on Rod, she sounds like she’s one of a kind.”

True, that is what it may sound like. I will even admit it was difficult to find a high quality woman out there, I had to date COUNTLESS people just to get to the point that I’m at.

But the wait was completely worth it. While my friends have girlfriends that they cheat on or their girl is simply uninterested or annoyed at them, I worked my back off and in turn received a true lady in every sense and form of the word.

Shocker: YOU can too. There are many good women out there, you just have to LOOK for them in the RIGHT places.

If you put in the effort, if you apply the things I teach, you too can attract and have an amazing relationship that builds not only on you two but those around you as well.

Money does not make the man. The man makes the money.

The crown doesn’t make the king. It’s the king that makes the crown.

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